Friday, September 17, 2010

Bump in the Road


Life has been pretty busy on the home front and on the work front.  I find myself missing out on a few of the things that keep me grounded.  Writing on this blog is one of them.

The kiddos are back at school. New grades = New challenges.  Most of them good, a few that have been difficult.  The homework is getting harder for my oldest student.  For the first time, his organization and time management are being put to the test.  And I guess, to be a strong model, so is mine.

For him, the challenge is reading.  In our home, it is overwhelming for him to pick the "just right" book, when you think everyone else is reading "War and Peace."  If he only knew that they aren't - and if they are - they are faking it.  A handful maybe. But a good many are faced with some challenges. They just don't tell anyone. I think it's OK to tell.

I met with the specialist this morning.  She passed many books on to me to have him plow through.  They are easier than his level, but will allow him to self correct and continue to build his foundation.  He will still read his challenging books. His love of books and reading will still be honored.

Well, it went over like a lead balloon.  Tears and frustration.  Lots of tears and frustration.  For the first time, I shared with my son something I ALWAYS say to myself.  This is just a bump in the road.  In fact, I say it so much to myself sometimes I sound like a broken record in my head. This is just a bump in the road.

I remember the first time I said it to myself. I had to get 4 days of IV for my MS.  I allowed myself a pity party. I cried and then I dusted myself off.  Before it started the next afternoon, I read "Night" by Elie Wiesel and decided promptly that my problems were in fact, just a bump in the road.  I continue to believe that. It will be OK.

I believe it for my son, too.  It is a tough lesson to learn when you are nine.  But I can't think of a better time. I wish I had learned it at nine.  I know in my heart if he realizes that this is "just for now" and that he will be on a smooth road again real soon, he will get over this bump stronger and on the right path. It will be OK.